[Aunt Clara]

Strictly from a gastronomical point of view an inter-cultural marriage can be a thing of wonder, or a complete disaster, depending on how open the two parties are. We, for example, are pretty open and adventurous. Except for meat (and I might give that a try some day) I have learned to enjoy Danish cuisine (hubby is Danish), while my husband has tried, and learnt to love most of the Dominican dishes.

For quite a while he swore he'd never try goat or mondongo (tripes), and guess what? You guessed right, he'd tried them both. He took a bite of mondongo from his -strictly-steak-and-tatters dad who somehow, probably under the influence of a few frias, took the jump and did. Go figure.

There are some things we hate about each other's cultures (I hate how too many Danes smoke excessively, he hates how we drive, fair is fair), but when it comes to the kitchen all is well in our kingdom of three. It'll be interesting to see how the sprout adapts to this.

So, how have your marriage adapted to different diets?

[osteo]

That would be the great experiance if some one has husband from another culture or vice versa and i think most joyable thing will be their kids !
i always long for a marriage like this but could not do so !
Kids in such a marriage will enjouy both cultures ! and that would be a great feeling for them!

[Elsa]

I am lucky my husband is very open, he is French canadien, and he is the one cooking at home, our meals are always diferrent unless I cook, of course, I only cook when I want to eat dominican food.
He likes dominican food and other contries food too,so every week we eat something diferrent from a different country, he buys cooking magazines, and do all the recipes of it, and only, but only when he had done all of them, he moves to another magazine.
By the way, he hates the way we drive in Dom Rep, too.

[azucarnegra]

I was raised in a military family and always exposed to different races and cultures, but I knew after joining the military my husband would be either Dominican or Puerto Rican.
My husband and I have been married for 6 years and it's had alot of ups and downs dealing with our races. His mother wasn't to fond of me because I'm black, she made it clear to me even after we were married saying "I want him with a dominican, puerto rican or white girl, not black".
All of his dominican guy friends think it's great that he married outside his race and welcome me with open arms but thier wives, no. The black guys will not dare say or look at him funny, but for me I get comments and dirty stares. The black girls who I have met while here in NC have had a problem with me being married outside my race. Needless to say all my girlfriends are interracially married and understand what I go through.
My husband though has been thrilled about how much I soak up everything dealing with his culture. He always jokes and says that I'm really Dominican!
I've learned over the years to ignore people and just laugh at them because life is too short. I know they wish they were me and living life to the fullest. We have a beautiful baby girl and a good marriage and I wouldn't change that for nobody.

[Veevee]

We too have an interracial, intercultural marriage. So far the people that have given me more grief are my latino girlfriends (I grew up in a latino neighborhood), something about stealing latino men. Never mind that I didn't steal anyone, my husband was single and came to live in the US after we got married. I just tell them off.

I am like azucarnegra, I always liked the latino culture, even if my whitebread parents disaproved. We are having some trouble, but nothing that newlyweds don't have. He misses his food and all my friends are Mexicans, so I have to learn how to cook it, and teach him! I bought an English cookbook for me and one in Spanish for dh and with this site we have cooked some things.

[Cake_mix]

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Originally Posted by azucarnegra My husband and I have been married for 6 years and it's had alot of ups and downs dealing with our races. His mother wasn't to fond of me because I'm black, she made it clear to me even after we were married saying "I want him with a dominican, puerto rican or white girl, not black". We have a beautiful baby girl and a good marriage and I wouldn't change that for nobody.

Hello Brownsugar, it's funny that you say that...We all have our prejudices; because even without dealing with others we think we know everything about the other race... I know a dominican girl who married a black american (South Carolina ) and his mother has not warmed up to her, so it can go both ways.
After all, it's all about you and him (and your baby) everybody else is an intruder.

[SenoraLey]

As far as food goes, both my spouse and I are open to try new foods, recipes, etc. from each others background - so that's never a problem. We are an interracial marriage - - the only issues that bother me (interracially speaking) is when we are in a group and someone else makes a disparaging remark either about latino people or caucasian people. My spouse is more of the type to not let other's ignorant remarks bother him. Me, on the other hand, get very hot-tempered when I hear someone make a rude or ignorant comment either about Latino people or caucasian people. I just don't have patience for stupid ignorant people. I will hear stupid comments even when we are with our own friends - other married couples - and one will say something about "white people" or "Spanish people" - I wanna jump all over them and the older I get, the less I keep quiet about things like that. My husband doesn't like to cause a scene but if the comment is insulting enough I will open my mouth and let the idiot in question know what they said was offensive.