[loripilar]

My husband is Puerto Rican, and although I consider them and Cubans as our "cousins", even that can be sometimes difficult as far as food goes. We cook the same same things, but differently.
Even Dominicans in our own country are prejudiced against other dominicans, be it for their skin, their class, neighborhood, what ever it may be; It is ridiculous.We just need to learn how to live and enjoy what each other has to offer. We live in a small town in Arizona and I am the only Dominican and the are only a handful of PRs. We are sorrounded by Caucasians and Mexicans, all we can do is teach them about our foods when they come over for dinner and they love our sazon!!!
As far as friends and family not being happy with your race, too bad for them. That should add some sazon of your own to your marriage, so be happy and stick to each other, everyone else is just envidioso.

[sonia.pena]

Although we are both latin me being Mexican and him being Dominican he has learned to eat with tortilla like mexicans and i have somewhat learned to cook some dominican food. From what I've learned from my mother-in-law and his aunts. Its fun. I like to try new things.

[terika32]

Well I am Mexican American and my husband is Dominican. We do have minor problems sometimes, but not too big. We like most of the same food. He takes care of me and I take care of him because we love eachother. My husband still lives in the DR and I am here in Michigan working on his papers for his visa. I am sure we will have a great time when he gets here to the US for the first time. I am excited, well we both are excited. I have traveled all over the US but when Dario and I travel he will be seeing everything this beautiful country has to offer.

My family struggled to get here to the US and I say I am extremely lucky to be American, but I still call myself mexican because that is my heritage and I will never forget it!!!

But now after all these years being around dominicans my family says I am dominicana because my spanish has changed. I no longer speak espanol mexicano I speak more like a domincana!!

My husband says I am dominicana not mexicana now.

[Icelsa Mejia]

Soy diominicana casada con un hombre de jamaica.

[girdhar]

Hi,
As far as my
experience goes I am bachelor but after reading all your experiences I started to develope a feeling that I must marry to a women who belongs to different culture so that i can enjoy the food from both the culture.

[joci]

Wow I can relate with many here and am impressed to hear that some of the husbands are actually sharing the cooking responsibilities. Unfortunately for me it's not so simple. My parents are Dominican, I was born and raised here. My husband is Indian, born and raised in Gujarat. Growing up I surely knew how to make plantains but my mom did most of the cooking and I was always into all kinds of food here in NY. When I married I soon had to learn how to cook Indian food which means it has to be spicy!! Which is how I discovered why so many Southeast Indians love Mexican food. I tried to introduce Tostones to my husband but he didn't care for it much. The rice and beans were just a bit too bland for his palate therefore anything "spanish" just had to have lots of chili pepper in it! I have learned plenty about his cuisine, impressing his father and family to my surprise. Thanks to cookbooks and observations in family kitchens I can cook their Dal, rice, Saag, Roti, Pakode, and Raita, (translates to beans, rice, vegetable curry of greens, flatbread, chickpea flour fritters and yoghurt salad) and more. But I must admit that I'm still not confident enough to entertain the 20+ family members with my version of Indian cooking. However in our year and a half of marriage I have improved, and have even improvised with Sofrito in some of the dal (beans) dishes. I've learned that while I may not be serving up the traditional "Dominican Flag" spread I'm amazed at the similarities in techniques and ingredients. But lately I have been reintroducing the plantain...with plenty of chili powder and Adobo! Now he likes it!! I recall when he couldn't stand the taste of Malta and now he'll drink two at a time...(ironically it has to be Malta India!) So slowly but surely he's opening up and is discovering other foods which I have for so long been enjoying...Malaysian, Italian, Thai, Japanese, and some real Chinese cuisine. Now thanks to this site I can rediscover the joys of cooking other Dominican fare, of course with a twist...much more chili pepper, garlic and a touch of ginger for a kick. So don't be discouraged by the differences, be encouraged in the universal language of food. Our melting pot of ancestors have found ways to adapt otherwise we would not have all the great dishes we have today. Afterall we do have to eat to survive.

[Aunt Clara]

Wow joci! Indian and Dominican. What time is dinner?