[Chakra917]

I'm the typical all American white girl. My husband is from DR. He moved to NYC (washington heights) when he was 12. I was raised in AZ and moved to NY to be with him (we met online). I have never been with a spanish man before but hes the best in the world! We get along sooo good and just had a baby boy. These mixed babies are so **** cute! My family loves my husband. He brings lots of great dr culture to us!

[sylnali25]

In the 7 years we have been together, both my husband and I have embraced each other's cultures. Even our families have as well. His family was happy he married me. Prior to me, his only 2 other serious relationships were with italian women and although the italian culture is similar to the latino cultures, they were relieved that he married a fellow latina. I have taught his family not only the foods from my country, but our customs as well. When my husband joined our family, he did the same. My family learned to enjoy the food and the dancing! lol...our wedding was very diverse and everyone enjoyed themselves. My husband has traveled to Mexico more than I have and has even learned to speak spanish w/a mexican accent! lol
The joke with our children is who is mexican and who is dominican...my 5 yr old says she is dominican because she does not like spicy food! lol..but its nice to teach your children their heritage and different customs.

[JarabaRubia]

My husband is American and very white (German, Irish and Polish) and he and his family have been nothing but open minded and welcoming to me and my culture. We even got married in DR and we had about 20-25 people from the US fly down for the wedding. I was a bit apprehensive b/c the wedding was not at a large resort but in my hometown of Jarabacoa, but they had a blast and ate, danced and drank the whole weekend away.

My hubby loves dominican food and is an excellent platano peeler!

[manNY2]

its sad to see how much ignorance is displayed from one culture towards another. when we are in the kitchen and slice our little fingers....we all bleed red (atleast i hope so). its funny that im dominican and married to a dominican and still get these little jokes coming from different family members. im white dominican (when i was in school i got mistaken for italian all the time), and she is of dark skin dominican. in the end nothing bothers us and we have a 2 year old princess. prejudice is just pure ignorance at its best, in one ear and out the other....smile....and walk away.

[Sara594]

I am an olive complected Italian born and raised in New York. My boyfriend of 5 years is a dark "moreno" Dominican who moved to Florida at the age of 18. We have grown so much within eachothers culture in these years. He has learned to speak nearly perfect English- though his lovely accent is sadly leaving more and more everyday- and can chow down on some very Sicilian dishes... I have learned to speak Spanish (and even take it as part of my college courses), dance some very surprising merengue and can even cook a mean san cocho. The only barriers that we have run into because of our culture is the fiery and passionate temper that comes with BOTH cultures...Also, Italians are typically raised with the mindset that the women run the household and have complete say-so... And while he fits the Dominican "machismo" stereotype VERY well... we tend to butt heads in that sense. The last issue I can think of is that though both of our families are delighted for us to to be with eachother, I sadly find that his family and friends are blatantly approving of me based almost entirely on my appearance... Their compliments have nothing to do with me going to school for my masters, my accomplishments, personality, or how well I take care of their son/brother/friend/etc... But the only compliment I can get is how much I resemble a younger Viviana of Guerra de los Sexos!! Although nice, this is highly offensive and shallow to me because my family approves of him ONLY based on the happiness he brings to me. As uncomfortable as it makes me, I often wonder if this is typical???

[JarabaRubia]

Sara,
To respond to your comment on his family's preoccupation with your appearance....although it's shallow and you find it demeaning, they probably don't mean it that way. Dominicans comment on physical attributes as a matter of course....Ay...que gorda estas! (You got so fat) is so common and although hurtful and inappropriate, is said with the same matter of factness that an American would say "oh you vut your hair" I've gotten used to it.
Also, we tend to give people nicknames based on physical traits: my Mom is dark and many people -including my Dad and my grandma (her Mother)- call her La Negra. I on the other hand, am blond, and few people in my hometown call me by my name, instead they call me Rubia.
I guess my point is that they probably like you and are well aware of your accomplishments, but they see it as complimentary to point out that you look like a celebrity.
Hope that helps.

[hectordr]

Hi everyone,

I am engaged to a White-American with a TOTALLY American culture. We met in the summer of '05 with a few differences, I like to hang out at home and cook, she likes to party and eat out, so throughout our relationship and after having a beautiful daughter, we have combined our ways to make our sourroundings a bit better.

Now, when its time to cook, move aways people because we are just cooking 'till its done!
We both go to the kitchen, set the task for the day, for example: I do the meat and the Beans, she would do the Rice and the Plaintains or the Salad.

She loves the way dominican food is cooked and the flavor we use is fenomenal!

I will be sharing some of our recipes we have combined with our parent's knowledge.
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